You could be waiting days, weeks or months for someone to make the first move. And even if the person isn't interested, at least you'll know right away rather than wasting your own time by sitting around waiting for something that is never going to happen.
If you're used to waiting for someone else to do it, making the first move can feel unnatural — but practice makes perfect.
You're not a damsel in distress; you're in control.
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Once you get used to it, you'll find that making the first move can be empowering.
And come on, do you really want to buy into a social habit that paints women as helpless and passive?
Whether we're talking about asking for someone's details, asking them out or jumping their bones (yes, I am a teenage boy from the 1990s,) there's no reason for women not to be the ones who go for it.
And the numbers didn't lie."They clearly illustrate that women of every age, ethnicity and background initiate most pickups and, in truth, women have become blatant," she wrote.
"In 2012, 65 per cent of more than 5,000 men reported they had been asked out by a woman.
And, beyond the fact that it's the 21st century, and any basic semblance of equality tells us that we should fight traditional gender roles, there are some really good reasons you should step up to the plate. We can't ignore the fact that the idea that men should do the heavy lifting is incredibly heteronormative. Michael Mills found that "more men preferred to be asked out (16 per cent) than there were women who preferred to do the asking (6 per cent.)" That difference suggests that "10 per cent of men may be waiting quite a while for a woman to ask them out on a first date." So it's not like they'll hate it.
And plus, would you want to go out with the kind of guy who was intimidated by a woman being bold?
Therefore, I’ve created this list to help simplify reading these signs and how to respond to them.